Improving Daily

I saw a meme the other day and the message was pretty basic:

If you can’t take a minute out of your day to say hi to me, then I’m not making time for you in my life.

Period.

The end.

I get it, in theory.

If life were black and white, all good or all bad, all happy or all sad, all easy or all hard, then it would make sense to apply that logic to a friendship.

But, most of life happens within the grey – the space between black and white. And I am a grey friend.

Sometimes I am a bad friend.

Sometimes I am a good friend.

Sometimes I forget to text back my friends.

Sometimes I check in with them when it really counts.

Sometimes I mean to reach out and say hi and then before I know it, I’m crawling into bed at the end of the day, my mind filled to the brim with all the things I didn’t get done.

Sometimes I show up.

Sometimes I decide deliberately to not reach out because it’s all I can do to keep the lid on my emotions from bubbling over.

Sometimes I let that lid go and reach out anyways.

Yes, I am a grey friend – but that doesn’t mean I don’t love the people in my life.

It just means that sometimes life is more complicated than a simple meme.

More complicated than bad or good,

More complicated than right or wrong.

Sometimes life just is weird and amazing,

Messy and wonderful.

Full of grief and full of joy.

All of those things – all at the same time.

And so, friendships can be all of those things too.

Younger me didn’t get it, but older me gets it now.

Now I try to give my friends some grace about living in the grey.

Just because they don’t return a text or don’t reach out to say hi might not mean they don’t like me.

It might mean they are too busy right now.

It might mean they are struggling.

It might mean they need to take a break from peopling.

It might mean they forgot.

It might mean one of the millions of reasons that exist in the grey.

So, I’ll keep on not keeping score and trying to give the important people the benefit of life’s grey spaces, and I’ll keep hoping people do the same for me.”

Adoring Husband is healing beyond expectations and is itching to get home. Unfortunately he has to wait until Monday.

His tremor is almost gone, his body pain is gone, his speech is much clearer and he says that his inturned foot is almost back to normal. He hasn’t needed pain relief since day two.

So things are going very well!

Today was a public holiday for “show day” which was a pain in the butt because we needed stuff and the shops where we would normally get that stuff were all closed. Ugh.

Thankfully, Farm Gate, our local organic market stall was open so we could stock up on some fresh fruit and veg and eggs.

It heading towards midnight so sleep time for me.

This is the new name of the latest Covid variant … speaks for itself really.

Nite all.