We all have attachments.
There is the obvious, like drugs and alcohol.
There is the less obvious like food, family, relationships, work, study, shopping, negativity or other “patterns” of behaviour like obsessing over the news or over other people’s behaviours.
If these attachments are causing you stress or anxiety, bringing fear or anger into your life and/or putting a strain on finances or relationships then it’s a problem.
We all live within our self imposed limitations.
Our own subconscious and unconscious fears make us resistant to firstly looking at our attachments and secondly, to making changes to help remove ourselves from them and begin to heal ourselves and live our best life.
How can the unenlightened mind become enlightened?
You have to be prepared to open your mind, look at new perspectives, take in new information and apply it to your life.
Our current knowledge is limited, but our potential for knowledge is limitless.
It doesn’t matter how strongly you have held on to certain beliefs, things change, science changes, times change, there is always new information at hand and to survive in a mindful and healthy way, we need to be open to changing our old beliefs.
If you are angry with the world, unhappy with your lot in life or generally feeling depressed - these old beliefs are simply not working for you anymore. Nothing will change until you are ready to change.
Accept that you are a little bit broken (or a lot broken), set aside your ego and relinquish your belief that you know best.
Be willing to experiment with new beliefs and actions that may benefit you. Invite the Universe (or whatever higher power you believe in) to help you in a positive, kind and compassionate way.
Ask yourself “What could I be?”
Fear limits everything in our lives and anger thrives on fear. When you’re feeling angry or someone close to you is angry, quietly search for the underlying fear that is triggering the anger.
For example when Adoring Husband is forgetful or has trouble understanding something, I sometimes get angry. I’m realising that the anger stems from my fear of the Parkinson’s getting worse. I’m recognising the trigger faster now and I meditate and sit with the feelings to help understand and dilute them.
I’m still not there yet, but I’m committed to releasing and changing my behaviours because they are not good for me or AH.
I also have to recognise the self sabotaging - which is the fear making me resistant and which helps me find other excuses for my unacceptable behaviour.
Oh we humans are interesting and intriguing creatures.
Recognising, acknowledging, accepting and releasing.
It’s ok to feel the feelings, just don’t purge all over the ones you love and most of all don’t punish yourself or feel guilty.
So ...
while initially, I was going to talk about the “Power of Detachment”, I think, in this case, I should be talking about the “Power of Realisation”.
Realising that nobody can upset me without my approval. Nobody can upset YOU without your approval.
It starts with ME.
It starts with you.
I have complete control of my actions, my emotions, my reactions and responses.
It is up to me to use my powers. It’s up to me to recognise my triggers and my aha moments and take steps to make positive change.
I will practice using my powers every day, recognise the tests that are placed before me and understand that nobody ‘belongs’ to me and I belong to nobody. Everybody in this world is a soul doing their best with varying degrees of enlightenment.
This year I am going to be fully aware of my powers, I will be my own best guide and I will surround myself with souls who bring love and light to the world. I will live in the ‘now’.
I’m pretty sure that AH will have started reading this and after the second paragraph was seeing “blah blah blah blah blah”
I’m pretty sure that quite a few of you saw the same blah blahs.
That’s ok.
You’re just not ready yet.
Nite all.
PS It’s ALREADY the second day of the new year!! Eep!
