Adoring Husband said the car told him that it was 2°C the last two mornings. Delicious sleeping weather and I slept for a solid 7.5 hours last night which was just lovely. I’ll try that trick again tonight!
It was a slow day at the shop. After AH put the tables up for me, I set up for Saturday’s workshop.
I received a delivery of 3 boxes of stock at 1.30pm which was an hour later than usual because, I was told, the courier had a much bigger load than usual and I must say, he was looking exhausted.
I was able to unpack, price and display most of it before home time, which was handy because I’m expecting more tomorrow.
Meanwhile ...
I love this and I wish I’d learned the lesson earlier in life.
A great narrative to understand the power of self responsibility.
I bet there are a few of you that can relate?
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My mom had a lot of problems. She did not sleep and she felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.
The situation was the same, but she was different.
One day my dad said to her:
- I've been looking for a job for three months and I haven't found anything, I'm going to have a few beers with friends.
My mom replied:
- It's okay.
My brother said to her:
- Mom, I'm doing poorly in all my subjects at University ...
My mom replied:
- Okay, you will recover, and if you don't, well, you repeat the semester but you pay the tuition.
My sister said to her:
- Mom, I hit the car.
My mom replied:
- Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, figure out how to pay for it and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.
Her daughter-in-law said to her:
- Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.
My mom replied:
- Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.
All of us at my mom's house gathered worried to see these reactions.
We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribed some pills of "I don't give a damn, about 1000 mg."
She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.
We then proposed to do an "intervention" to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.
But what was the surprise, was when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:
"It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life. It took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.
I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for my own reactions and my own responses.
Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one of you solve what corresponds to them.
I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.
And it is that I can only be concerned with myself. You have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.
I can give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.
So, from now on, I cease to be the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations or the depositary of your duties.
From now on, I declare you all independent and self-sufficient adults.
Everyone at my mom's house was speechless.
From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.
Author:
A HAPPY WOMAN!!
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Nite all.
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